So it's only been, what? 2 1/2, going on 3 years since my last post? A lot has changed since then and I find myself almost a completely different person than who I was back in 2020, something I'd assume to be a shared sentiment. I finished nursing school with good grades, passed my boards, started planing my trajectory for the next 5 years, built some strong friendships; I did what I was supposed to do. But now with all this time on my hands post school, I was left kind of wondering, "what now?" and "who am I?". Everyday can't be wake up and scroll on the clock app (TikTok), ke ke'ing under the covers in my satin robe rubbing my toes together. "I need to touch some grass!" I would tell myself. Then I'd scroll to the next video. Then the next. Then once I'm bored there, I'd jump to IG. Then to Twitter. Text a couple of people back. Just pure uselessness. Being a chronic homebody has its perks but it was getting boringggg. I need something else to occupy my time, but I want it to be genuine. I want some fun new hobbies! I also took that time for deep reflection to realize what is it that I wanted to start working on as I'm tracking through my 20s. I'm racking up a list, it's definitely giving New Year's resolution but like forreal forreal.
Activities!
1) Blogging: Clearly and obviously I picked this up (again). I truly don't care or mind how much reach this gets, I don't expect to be a blogging influencer off of this. But there's something so cool to me about having a site dedicated to your opinions, thoughts, interests, and advice. That anyone can visit too! It's genuinely so fun to me and I can kind of see why the rise of red pill alpha male podcasts are on the rise. Who doesn't like to hear their thoughts out loud?! Just head in the clouds...
2) Archery: This is like insane, and I dont think anyone would suspect this from me. My partner and I went to this archery place for our anniversary and I found that I'm surprisingly good at it? Like 'almost all my arrows at center point on my first try' good at it? Completely strange. It's definitely worth looking into and I'm looking to commit myself to an attempt to find a location by the end of this year. I'll definitely be updating!
3) Badminton: Honestly, no need for a whole paragraph, everyone in my town played as a high school gym requirement and I loved it so much. It's like relaxed tennis...but like not really. It's so fun.
4) Deep diving into faith: Now this isn't really a hobby per se, but it's definitely enriching. I think almost everyone in my life knows I've had a little revival moment in my life with Christ and I've been so excited to learn all there is to know. Studying the Bible, the context, feeling the mental transformation; it's all been such a wonderful thing in my life. Even apart from the intention of growing my relationship with Him and learning who I am in Him, I get to learn so much history in the process of it all. Just because school is done for the time being doesn't mean the learning should stop!
5) Going to the freaking gym: Okay truthfully this one is something. I've had such an up and down relationship with the gym that I'd say it's best to call us a situationship right now. But for all my people trying to get healthy, this life is no joke. Too many co-morbidities exist with family histories ridden with the 'betes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol and the likes. I've heard of enough toes falling off from diabetic neuropathy to make me want to clean up my health. No need for the spiel, let's get on that.
Realizations!
1) Romanticize life: I hate to be the bearer of bad news (not really) but I'm a soft life warrior. West Africans championed that lifestyle from the get go! Y'all just tuning in now smh. But it's okay! It's never too late to join the fun! All jokes aside, romanticize your life. Envision your life as a storyline and embrace some of the finer things in life, whatever that may look like for you. It's definitely a 'fake it til you make it, look good and you feel good' sort of ordeal. So for me for example, If it's one thing about me, I always go to work making sure I look half decent. I do my skin care in my little satin robe, wear my little Lululemon dupe, do some minimal makeup and make sure my wig is secured okay! I may be traumatized on the inside during my shift but as one of my coworkers said at least I don't LOOK like my trauma. That barely gets me through the shift forreal but that's always nice to hear! Romanticizing your life may look like the following:
Improve your home environment by keeping it clean and changing your design! Ex: Get yourself a little plant, real or fake, put a fresh coat of paint on your walls.
Swapping out a few items for some nicer things (and always pocket watch yourself too, don't spend above your means). So instead of a regular robe, get a satin or a puffy cotton robe. Take it an extra step by getting it embroidered with your initials!
Embrace and prioritize self care. Whatever this may look like for you, whether it's having a night time routine, developing a skin care routine, scheduling time for therapy, going for a massage/facial/ manicure/ pedicure, watching your favorite show with your phone on DND. Whatever that may look like for you! Do it. That leads me into my next 2 points...
2) Develop a routine: Setting up a routine is so so so important. Having a dedicated time for certain things in your life can give you some based structure in your day to day. But make it realistic! If you know you can't wake up any earlier than 11 on a Saturday, maybe don't set a goal to waking up at 5am by Friday night. Lean yourself into it in increments instead. Currently, I'm trying to wake up between 7-8 am on my days off and start my day by going to the gym. I definitely fell off of that for a bit but I've been inspired to stick to my goal with writing this! I also want to start scheduling some time for God in my day instead of just waiting around for whenever I'm in the mood for Him. It makes it hard to maintain growth that way!
3) Practice self upkeep:
Take care of yourselfffff. We only have one life and it's getting ghetto outside! Maintain your health, heal your inner child, go on solo trips, do whatever you need to maintain your health on the inside and the outside. If you look good you feel good, and if you heal yourself then you'll begin to feel yourself (in hindsight that sounded better in my head but you get the gist).
4) Save your money and relax with those credit cards: I am in no way financially literate and I hope to learn about all of that at some point with the privileges I have. Being 21 and in my career already is super great
when you have no other responsibilities and live with your parents. But in the spirit of transparency I was definitely running up some cards when I was in college and not working often, so I definitely need to give myself a better foundation than that, especially by taking advantage of my living circumstances. So lately my goal has been paying off any and all debts that I have, saving a percentage of what I make each week, and making sure I stay consistent in that.
Do you have a set routine for your day?
Working on it!
For sure. We locked in!
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